Men are especially vulnerable to assumptions that abuse happens only to women.
- Many male survivors of domestic abuse stay silent due to shame and embarrassment, and fear of not being believed.
- Male victims of psychological abuse are especially vulnerable to false allegations of domestic violence.
- False claims of domestic violence can put a career and reputation at risk, and harm a parent's relationship with their children and family.
Sean, a well-known figure in his community, recently ended his relationship with his now-ex-wife. When he first tried to leave the relationship, she threatened to keep the children from him, even though she had no grounds to do so. He had thought that all of that had blown over, but found out months later that she was posting online claiming to be a victim of domestic abuse, and filing false allegations against him in an attempt to have him lose his job and his children. Understandably upset, Sean struggled with how to navigate the situation. He spent months trying to avoid his ex, only wanting her to move on, but her behaviors and statements were making this near-impossible, as they lived in a small town. "Everything that she is saying happened, are things that she did to me!" he exclaimed, slumping down on the couch in defeat. "I don't even know what to do. Nobody will ever believe me that she was the true abuser, because I'm a man!" Sean came into therapy embarrassed, hopeless, and unsure how to navigate his situation.
As a therapist...
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